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Aug 10

August 10, 2017

How to Find the Light When It All Goes Dark

How to Find the Light When It All Goes Dark

Today started out on an aggravating note. The repair guy at the house there to fix some damage from our lightning strike showed up late, causing me to run late for a meeting with an editor. My head has hurt for days, and it decided to pick today to amp up the pain to ten. There were some troubles with... Read more

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Aug 7

August 7, 2017

To the Ones Who Let Us Scream It Out When the Bottom Drops Out

To the Ones Who Let Us Scream It Out When the Bottom Drops Out

This week I stood on a wooden platform. Sweaty, eager, teenagers in cut off shorts holding souvenir cups surrounded me. The soundtrack, a cacophony of nervous chatter about what might happen should the coaster become stuck or spontaneously fall apart and the click-click-clack sound of the coaster slowly rising followed by the thrilled screams of riders. My stepdaughter and I... Read more

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Aug 3

August 3, 2017

The Text of Shame

The Text of Shame

It’s your best friend’s birthday. You bought tickets to the show she’s been wanting to see for the last year and promised you would go no matter how sick you got in the hours leading up to your departure. Leaning into those words, your dear friend has skipped both the 24-hour and 4-hour check-in texts. She’s oblivious to the raging... Read more

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Jul 31

July 31, 2017

Learning to Love Our Broken Bodies

Learning to Love Our Broken Bodies

Some might say my body has been through a lot. Yesterday, I cleaned out my dresser drawers and found five pairs of hospital issue no-slip socks. I also discovered clothing in sizes 4-16, old nursing bras, the remote to my bladder pacemaker, and a bikini that would now fit one-third of my body. It’s hard to fathom the number of... Read more

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Jun 15

June 15, 2017

3 Truths About Relationships in the Belly of the Cave

3 Truths About Relationships in the Belly of the Cave

If like me, you’ve known sickness of any kind, or even simply walked through a particularly difficult time in your life, you’ve most likely also experienced a myriad of responses from those close to you. Maybe the people you least anticipated being the heroes in your story showed up on the scene and continue to show time and time again. More... Read more

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Jan 2

January 2, 2017

A Change in Perspective

A Change of Perspective

I feared the night was coming, but felt helpless to stop it.  I did all the things you can think of to prevent it and yet there I was walking into the ER trauma room, the wife of a drunk driver.  What would they think of me?  What would they think of him?  Did he get what he deserved?  What... Read more

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Nov 28

November 28, 2016

People-The Problem AND the Solution

People: The Problem AND The Solution

That’s me in front, on my 3rd birthday. With me are my brothers Mike and Gary, and uncle Todd in the middle. Todd was more like a brother, as he was only a year older than Mike and spent lots of time with us. I am the lone survivor from this picture. (Cheerful post, right? Hang in there, we’ll turn... Read more

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Nov 14

November 14, 2016

Gratitude When We Least Expect It

Gratitude When We Least Expect It

At least that’s how it feels. There is little effort required to feel so grateful for what seem to be the smallest things when life is good; when times get tough, that’s the challenge. And that, as we are told by those positive-affirmation people, is when we NEED to find our gratitude most. While I’m not a fan of being... Read more

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Nov 6

November 6, 2016

How to Cultivate Gratitude in the Midst of Hardship

How to Cultivate Gratitude in the Midst of Hardship

2012 was that year.  The Murphey’s Law year.  Everything that could go wrong did, and it took everything we had to survive it…literally. It was the third year of my son’s leukemia treatment, the total duration of which lasted over 3 years.  Additionally, I started out the year with mono and thyroid failure, which I attribute to the enormous stress of parenting... Read more

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Oct 6

October 6, 2016

Why People Don’t Understand Your Chronic Illness

Why People Don’t Understand Your Chronic Illness

Guest post from Boni Wagner-Stafford, Friends With Fibro “What other people think of you is none of your business.”  ― Regina Brett I love this quote. It says so much that is true, that is representative of our evolution into true adulthood when we finally learn we can stop caring what other people think. Those of us with a chronic illness... Read more

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