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Jun 15

June 15, 2017

3 Truths About Relationships in the Belly of the Cave

3 Truths About Relationships in the Belly of the Cave

If like me, you’ve known sickness of any kind, or even simply walked through a particularly difficult time in your life, you’ve most likely also experienced a myriad of responses from those close to you. Maybe the people you least anticipated being the heroes in your story showed up on the scene and continue to show time and time again. More... Read more

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Jan 2

January 2, 2017

A Change in Perspective

A Change of Perspective

I feared the night was coming, but felt helpless to stop it.  I did all the things you can think of to prevent it and yet there I was walking into the ER trauma room, the wife of a drunk driver.  What would they think of me?  What would they think of him?  Did he get what he deserved?  What... Read more

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Nov 28

November 28, 2016

People-The Problem AND the Solution

People: The Problem AND The Solution

That’s me in front, on my 3rd birthday. With me are my brothers Mike and Gary, and uncle Todd in the middle. Todd was more like a brother, as he was only a year older than Mike and spent lots of time with us. I am the lone survivor from this picture. (Cheerful post, right? Hang in there, we’ll turn... Read more

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Nov 14

November 14, 2016

Gratitude When We Least Expect It

Gratitude When We Least Expect It

At least that’s how it feels. There is little effort required to feel so grateful for what seem to be the smallest things when life is good; when times get tough, that’s the challenge. And that, as we are told by those positive-affirmation people, is when we NEED to find our gratitude most. While I’m not a fan of being... Read more

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Nov 6

November 6, 2016

How to Cultivate Gratitude in the Midst of Hardship

How to Cultivate Gratitude in the Midst of Hardship

2012 was that year.  The Murphey’s Law year.  Everything that could go wrong did, and it took everything we had to survive it…literally. It was the third year of my son’s leukemia treatment, the total duration of which lasted over 3 years.  Additionally, I started out the year with mono and thyroid failure, which I attribute to the enormous stress of parenting... Read more

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Oct 6

October 6, 2016

Why People Don’t Understand Your Chronic Illness

Why People Don’t Understand Your Chronic Illness

Guest post from Boni Wagner-Stafford, Friends With Fibro “What other people think of you is none of your business.”  ― Regina Brett I love this quote. It says so much that is true, that is representative of our evolution into true adulthood when we finally learn we can stop caring what other people think. Those of us with a chronic illness... Read more

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Sep 22

September 22, 2016

The Answer to the Question, "How Are You?"

The Answer to the Question, “How Are You?”

How are you feeling? It’s got to be the most loaded question out there. As a chronic illness fighter/warrior/survivor I don’t really know how to answer that question. Heck, I don’t even really know what to call myself in terms of chronic illness. Probably not. Not many of the spoonies I know do. It’s too much to get started with... Read more

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Jun 16

June 16, 2016

Dear Friend with PTSD

Dear Friend with PTSD

Dear Friend, You just got out of my car and I’m left trying to decide whether to cry, pray, or follow you. You had a flashback, some might call it an episode. A brutally unfair symptom of PTSD that interrupts a perfectly lovely cup of coffee with a friend or a breezy summer drive with memories of horror and pain.... Read more

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Jun 13

June 13, 2016

{In Which} We All Let Go Of Meeting Others' Expectations

{In Which} We All Let Go Of Meeting Others’ Expectations

About ten or twelve years ago I found myself haunted by a single moment, an act, a decision I’d made hanging out there on the horizon. The memory would creep up on me in the night and dance around in my mind, turning my stomach, rending my heart into pieces over and over again until they fell out my eyes... Read more

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May 19

May 19, 2016

3 Tips For Surviving a Flare

3 Tips for Surviving a Flare

Flare-ups are a regular and unfortunate part of living with an autoimmune disease. They LOVE to come right when we are busiest, invading our days with pain and dizziness where there was no room for such miseries. I’m experiencing one currently, as often happens when I am due for my next chemotherapy infusion (Remicade every four weeks, totally worth it!).... Read more

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