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May 15

May 15, 2017

How to Know When You're Grieving Well

How to Know When You’re Grieving Well

A few months after my mom died, my dear friend asked me how things were going. I spoke with her about staring up into the sky and wondering if my mom was looking back. I told her about times I laid my head down to sleep after a perfectly fine day and cried until my throat and head throbbed. I... Read more

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Nov 28

November 28, 2016

People-The Problem AND the Solution

People: The Problem AND The Solution

That’s me in front, on my 3rd birthday. With me are my brothers Mike and Gary, and uncle Todd in the middle. Todd was more like a brother, as he was only a year older than Mike and spent lots of time with us. I am the lone survivor from this picture. (Cheerful post, right? Hang in there, we’ll turn... Read more

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Jun 6

June 6, 2016

When Chronic Illness Makes You Angry

When Chronic Illness Makes You Angry

Summer makes me angry. For so many around me, it signifies the exciting beginning of evening meals made on the grill, family trips to the water park or theme parks, day trips to the zoo, long days by the pool or beach, lazily working on their tan. For me it signals the beginning of days upon days spent inside, days... Read more

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Jan 23

January 23, 2016

Can I Have A New Mom?

We Don’t Get to Pick

Yesterday was hard.   I just need to stick a stake in the cold, hard ground and mark that from the start.   Not so much because of what happened, as much as how it wrecked me.   From the time Avery was born, when I saw that fleshly little girl and took her in with majestic awe and wonder,... Read more

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Jan 7

January 7, 2016

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Broken Together

How I wish we could go back to simpler times Before all our scars and all our secrets were in the light Now on this hallowed ground, we’ve drawn the battle lines Will we make it through the night? It’s going to take more much more than promises this time Only G-d can change our minds   Maybe you and... Read more

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Dec 13

December 13, 2015

Coping With-4

Coping With Grief and The Holidays

When my oldest, Hayden, was small we filled the holiday season with festivities. Christmas cookies in pajamas, visiting Santa, driving around at night to look at the Christmas lights, watching our favorite Christmas movies, making and wrapping gifts…these were just a few of our favorite activities. My social media feeds are filled with smiley-faced people doing these exact things. And... Read more

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Dec 10

December 10, 2015

Grief is a Process

Grief is a Process

Grief is a process. There is no escaping it. Oh yes, there is delaying it. But that is not the same as avoiding it—it’s just a postponement. There’s really no delicate way to say this and so here it is: Grief sucks. She’s an ugly monster who tries to drown you, who humiliates you in the grocery store and at... Read more

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