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Feb 23

February 23, 2017

Twenty More Brunette Strands

Twenty More Brunette Strands {On Redefining Best}

Twenty more brunette strands. The white of the pillowcase was speaking an unwelcome truth. Though the official word was that this cocktail administered this time in this way probably wouldn’t cause the hair loss of rounds one or two….the proof was on the cotton percale.  Here we go again. Disappointment was knocking and once again would require emotional energy to answer.... Read more

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Feb 6

February 6, 2017

10 Ways You Can Help Me on the Bad Days

10 Ways You Can Help Me on the Bad Days

Living with chronic illness is hard. There are days the pain, fatigue, and every-day-ness of it is too much to push through. A huge part of chronic illness, at least for me, is pushing through because giving up isn’t a choice, but there are some days when it’d be easier than others to throw in the towel. Your friends want to help.... Read more

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Nov 28

November 28, 2016

People-The Problem AND the Solution

People: The Problem AND The Solution

That’s me in front, on my 3rd birthday. With me are my brothers Mike and Gary, and uncle Todd in the middle. Todd was more like a brother, as he was only a year older than Mike and spent lots of time with us. I am the lone survivor from this picture. (Cheerful post, right? Hang in there, we’ll turn... Read more

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Oct 20

October 20, 2016

An Open Letter to the Chronically Ill

An Open Letter to the Chronically Ill

It is my honor to love and serve you. While it is true I don’t understand your medical condition; I can’t relate to physically not being able to get out of bed each day, and I don’t comprehend your insecurity of not being enough. I do want to tell you that you are valued. You are appreciated. You are enough.... Read more

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Sep 8

September 8, 2016

How to Maintain Deep Friendships in the Midst of Chronic Illness

How to Maintain Deep Friendships in the Midst of Chronic Illness

We’ve all seen and/or experienced it. Chronic illness seems to rob us of some of our most treasured friendships. Maybe we simply lack the time to nurture those relationships or that particular friend loses interest in what’s quickly become a complicated and taxing relationship. How do we maintain lasting, meaningful friendships in the midst of chronic illness? Today, my dear... Read more

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Aug 22

August 22, 2016

"I Have No One" Responding to the Cries of the Sick

“I Have No One” Responding to the Cries of the Sick

I sat with legs crisscrossed applesauce, eating a bowl of honeycombs with a shameful ferocity before preschool pick-up would end these heavenly moments of silence. Skimming the cable guide’s offerings, I settled on the noonday news. Instantly, an invisible hand was reaching from the television, thrusting open my chest and extracting my heart with skillful precision. Instead of a red... Read more

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Jun 9

June 9, 2016

That Faithful Friend

That Faithful Friend

Befriending those with rare and chronic illnesses is not for the faint of heart. Your job description—should you choose to accept it—will include: walking with us through the plentiful highs and lows, learning a new language (the language of our illness), grieving alongside us, possibly purchasing a medical dictionary, no longer pretending it’s all okay, and last (but not least)... Read more

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Jan 13

January 13, 2016

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Fighting With the Chronically Ill

Anita I remember the first time I heard about chronic illness. Although I didn’t fully understand what chronic illness was or had never even heard the term, my first memory of it was called fibromyalgia and it sunk teeth deep into my mother in law’s body. She was very energetic. She was accustomed and happy to do everything in and... Read more

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