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Sep 7

September 7, 2017

CONFESSION: MY FRAGILE SHELL IS ABOUT TO BREAK

You think I’m strong. You think I’m brave. You think that I can weather any storm. Life’s thrown me some pretty tough curve balls, and from your perspective, I’ve knocked them out of the park. You see me smile despite heartache, and you watch me push forward while the ground collapses underneath. You hear me laugh when I should cry,... Read more

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Nov 6

November 6, 2016

How to Cultivate Gratitude in the Midst of Hardship

How to Cultivate Gratitude in the Midst of Hardship

2012 was that year.  The Murphey’s Law year.  Everything that could go wrong did, and it took everything we had to survive it…literally. It was the third year of my son’s leukemia treatment, the total duration of which lasted over 3 years.  Additionally, I started out the year with mono and thyroid failure, which I attribute to the enormous stress of parenting... Read more

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Aug 18

August 18, 2016

How to Cope With the Train Wreck of New Diagnosis

How to Cope with the Train Wreck of New Diagnosis

As I lay in the darkness, my fingers poised on the keys of my laptop, tears run down my cheeks  as I listen to the sound of my son’s feeding pump a few feet away–a constant reminder that my normal isn’t really normal at all. In a recent trip to Helen DeVos Children’s Hospital, I sat in a chair watching... Read more

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Aug 1

August 1, 2016

How to let go of doing it all by yourself

How to Let Go of Doing It All by Yourself

My disability hearing is Monday morning. It feels more like a sentence imposed upon me than anything else. I picture the judge as a monster from a Stephen King novel, his gavel an instrument of punishment posed to administer my lashings. And what was my crime, you ask? I’m not sure, really. Maybe it was asking for help, wasting the... Read more

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Jun 20

June 20, 2016

3 Tips For Loving Your Chronically Ill Spouse Well

3 Tips For Loving Your Chronically Ill Spouse Well

For most spouses, the thought of handling kiddie transportation, Thanksgiving dinner, and birthday parties solo would never cross their mind. But in the world of the spouse who cares for a chronically ill better half, such is the typical reality of day-to-day life. In fact, reconciling these dual and dueling worlds can prove incredibly challenging. Below are three tips that... Read more

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Dec 13

December 13, 2015

Coping With Grief and The Holidays

When my oldest, Hayden, was small we filled the holiday season with festivities. Christmas cookies in pajamas, visiting Santa, driving around at night to look at the Christmas lights, watching our favorite Christmas movies, making and wrapping gifts…these were just a few of our favorite activities. My social media feeds are filled with smiley-faced people doing these exact things. And... Read more

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Dec 10

December 10, 2015

Grief is a Process

Grief is a process. There is no escaping it. Oh yes, there is delaying it. But that is not the same as avoiding it—it’s just a postponement. There’s really no delicate way to say this and so here it is: Grief sucks. She’s an ugly monster who tries to drown you, who humiliates you in the grocery store and at... Read more

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Nov 8

November 8, 2015

Lessons From the Cancer Center

Lessons From the Cancer Center: Maybe like me, you are a watcher of people. You don’t mean to be, it just happens. You are drawn in by their essence, their stories. My husband and I can be at dinner and I will shake my head or shed a tear at something said or done nearby and he’ll ask totally dumbfounded,... Read more

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