Five Fears of the Chronically Ill

October 30, 2015 | Posted in: Chronic Illness and anxiety, Chronic Illness and body image, Chronic Illness and Pain, Chronic illness and relationships, chronic illness; support

  • You will never be enough. Whether it’s pain or fatigue, anxiety or depression or even all of the above, it’s sometimes hard to think about anything but that lead weight in your bones, that fire, that ache, that scream that won’t be silenced. You try to balance even just a few relationships, keep a couple of symptoms managed, plates spinning. Will there ever be enough of you to be the person you long to be?
  • You will be replaced. If you cancel one too many times people will simply stop asking you and start asking someone more dependable. Your husband will find someone attractive and thin who doesn’t sleep all the time, your friends will find more dependable people capable of enjoying fun activities with them, and your kids will find other role models to lean on who are emotionally available.
  • You will never get better. You’ll simply lose more and more of yourself over time until no more of you exist. No cure will come, no medical discovery, no new medicine, no miraculous intervention—– just more pain.
  • You will be alone. Pain and fatigue will be your only friends. Life will go on for everyone else but you. Eventually, it will be like you never existed. People will stop checking in and you’ll be isolated in carrying your burden.
  • You will be resented. You’ll become a burden others wish they didn’t have to shoulder. Your kids will resent that you weren’t there for that game. Your spouse will resent all of that extra housework they did. Your friends will resent that you weren’t present.

  This is some real and weighty stuff. What do we do with it? Like all real and weighty stuff, we take it straight to Jesus who told us that he’d not given us a spirit of fear but of a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7)

And we confront lies with truth.

You’ll never be enough? I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. Philippians 4:13

Will you be resented at some point? Probably. Feel alone? Most likely. Will your physical body improve? I don’t know. Will Jesus be with you through it all? Absolutely. Can you be replaced in the heart of God? Absolutely, positively not.

So we lay our fears before the cross, replacing the lies with truth and power forward. Your turn. What fears are you facing today?

 

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8 Comments

  1. Robin Lee
    October 30, 2015

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    I think I share every one of those fears with you, and I am relatively healthy. Much love…

    • Stacey Philpot
      October 30, 2015

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      Robin, maybe these fears are just inherent to the human condition?

    • Kelly S
      October 31, 2015

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      I agree. These fears fly in to attack me from time to time. I think chronic illness only magnifies the insecurities we naturally struggle with. The truths you share are excellent weapons against the fear!

  2. brooke
    October 30, 2015

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    depression is such a beast – and the more the fear consumes you the bigger the beast gets! I thank God for relief, if not total healing.

    • Stacey Philpot
      October 30, 2015

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      So true, Brooke and amen!

  3. brianna
    October 30, 2015

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    Fear is a liar, friend. You are beautiful, enough, worthy…
    🙂

    http://unveiledandrevealed.com

  4. Andrea Stunz
    November 3, 2015

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    I echo what Kelly said. Chronic illness and I will add any pain from a traumatic experience, whether physical or emotional, magnifies our fears. I’ve heard that the only two fears we are born with are the fear of loud noises and the fear of being dropped. All other fears are learned. Therefore they can be unlearned. Phillipians 4:8 … “whatever is true…. think on these things.” Sometimes that is SO hard when all you see is pain. Thanks for linking up on my Saturday Share post! Thank you for sharing your heart. I love your heart and your words.

  5. Stacey Philpot
    November 5, 2015

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    Wow, what a powerful thought, Andrea! I guess learning to be afraid of some things is wise and a sign of maturity while learning to fear others is a sign of reliance on self. May we all unlearn the unhealthy fears!

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