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Aug 9

August 9, 2016

5 Things the Chronically Ill Want “Healthy People” to Know

5 Things the Chronically Ill Want “Healthy People” to Know

Sometimes, the gap between us can feel insurmountable. Maybe we’ve become so immersed in our world of sickness and symptoms we can’t remember what it’s like to be healthy. We stare at you with curiosity and wonder like you’re an unknown species. Maybe you feel the same. You want to understand the chronically ill in your world, but they feel... Read more

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Jul 25

July 25, 2016

Significance and Relationship, Knowing You Matter

Significance and Relationship, Knowing You Matter

As a young girl, I engaged in every variety of romantic future telling. If you could write the name of a cute boy, a house, a number of children and then fold a paper until it successfully predicted your future, I had done it at least a thousand times. In fact, I’d probably set up a profitable business in my... Read more

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Jul 14

July 14, 2016

Dear Husband, I wish you knew how strong you are.

Dear Husband, I wish you knew how strong you are

Dear Husband, I wish you knew how strong you are. I wish you could see yourself through my eyes. Every day I wake up and watch you defy odds. The way you live your life is so much more than popping a pill or taking a shot. I don’t know any other 10-year-old boy who has announced to his mother... Read more

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Jun 30

June 30, 2016

Anxiety or Adventure-The PTSD Files

Anxiety or Adventure- The PTSD Files

As I board a plane a growing knot tightens my stomach. I quadruple check my ticket and stumble to my seat. If my husband is with me, he holds my hand once he gets settled because he knows the white-hot anxiety pings through my brain like a pinball machine. I recite scripture over and over to myself. I pray what... Read more

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Jun 20

June 20, 2016

3 Tips For Loving Your Chronically Ill Spouse Well

3 Tips For Loving Your Chronically Ill Spouse Well

For most spouses, the thought of handling kiddie transportation, Thanksgiving dinner, and birthday parties solo would never cross their mind. But in the world of the spouse who cares for a chronically ill better half, such is the typical reality of day-to-day life. In fact, reconciling these dual and dueling worlds can prove incredibly challenging. Below are three tips that... Read more

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Jun 16

June 16, 2016

Dear Friend with PTSD

Dear Friend with PTSD

Dear Friend, You just got out of my car and I’m left trying to decide whether to cry, pray, or follow you. You had a flashback, some might call it an episode. A brutally unfair symptom of PTSD that interrupts a perfectly lovely cup of coffee with a friend or a breezy summer drive with memories of horror and pain.... Read more

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Jun 9

June 9, 2016

That Faithful Friend

Befriending those with rare and chronic illnesses is not for the faint of heart. Your job description—should you choose to accept it—will include: walking with us through the plentiful highs and lows, learning a new language (the language of our illness), grieving alongside us, possibly purchasing a medical dictionary, no longer pretending it’s all okay, and last (but not least)... Read more

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May 15

May 15, 2016

A Letter To All Who “Fix”

Dear “Fixers,”   Please.Stop.Fixing.Us. We, the “fixees” beg you. Like salesmen, you come from the woodwork, eager to save us, the chronically ill, from ourselves. Like salesmen, your intentions are (mostly) good. The outcome is another story. Way back in the day, before we had a good grip on things like mental illness, my grandmother would get flustered and say,... Read more

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May 12

May 12, 2016

Suicide, Anger and Forgiveness- How I'm Healing

Suicide, Anger and Forgiveness-How I’m Healing

In 2006, I booked a weekend alone at a resort on the beach in Santa Cruz, California. The entire purpose of the trip was to do something I had been working on for quite some time: forgive my mom. I had spent fifteen years being incredibly angry with my mom and I realized my anger was only hurting myself, not her.... Read more

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May 2

May 2, 2016

How to Navigate Sickness in Marriage

Till Sickness Do Us Part?

On a balmy June evening, with the sand beneath us, the waves behind us and the sun bathing us in its golden light, my husband and I committed our lives to one another. “For richer or for poorer, in sickness or in health, as long as we both shall live” we giddily declared our love for one another. Which wasn’t... Read more

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