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Aug 10

August 10, 2017

How to Find the Light When It All Goes Dark

How to Find the Light When It All Goes Dark

Today started out on an aggravating note. The repair guy at the house there to fix some damage from our lightning strike showed up late, causing me to run late for a meeting with an editor. My head has hurt for days, and it decided to pick today to amp up the pain to ten. There were some troubles with... Read more

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Aug 3

August 3, 2017

The Text of Shame

The Text of Shame

It’s your best friend’s birthday. You bought tickets to the show she’s been wanting to see for the last year and promised you would go no matter how sick you got in the hours leading up to your departure. Leaning into those words, your dear friend has skipped both the 24-hour and 4-hour check-in texts. She’s oblivious to the raging... Read more

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Feb 27

February 27, 2017

Love Is Blind and Fabulous

Love Is Blind and Fabulous

I’ve long since considered myself defective. I picture my body as something purchased from the bottom of a clearance bin at your local Dollar Store. Somewhat like the twenty-five-cent toy you buy your child as a form of bribery to get them quietly through the check-out line, knowing full well it will break into a thousand tiny pieces before it’s... Read more

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Feb 9

February 9, 2017

6 Tangible Ways to Support the Hurting in Your World

6 Tangible Ways to Support the Hurting in Your World

It’s commonplace to rally around joyous transitions, signing up to bring new parents a meal or two to sustain them during the first sleepless days of a newborn’s life, pitching in to help the neighbors throw a graduation party for their high school senior. It’s also commonplace to circle the wagons around those who have lost a loved one with... Read more

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Jan 2

January 2, 2017

A Change in Perspective

A Change of Perspective

I feared the night was coming, but felt helpless to stop it.  I did all the things you can think of to prevent it and yet there I was walking into the ER trauma room, the wife of a drunk driver.  What would they think of me?  What would they think of him?  Did he get what he deserved?  What... Read more

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Nov 28

November 28, 2016

People-The Problem AND the Solution

People: The Problem AND The Solution

That’s me in front, on my 3rd birthday. With me are my brothers Mike and Gary, and uncle Todd in the middle. Todd was more like a brother, as he was only a year older than Mike and spent lots of time with us. I am the lone survivor from this picture. (Cheerful post, right? Hang in there, we’ll turn... Read more

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Nov 14

November 14, 2016

Gratitude When We Least Expect It

Gratitude When We Least Expect It

At least that’s how it feels. There is little effort required to feel so grateful for what seem to be the smallest things when life is good; when times get tough, that’s the challenge. And that, as we are told by those positive-affirmation people, is when we NEED to find our gratitude most. While I’m not a fan of being... Read more

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Nov 6

November 6, 2016

How to Cultivate Gratitude in the Midst of Hardship

How to Cultivate Gratitude in the Midst of Hardship

2012 was that year.  The Murphey’s Law year.  Everything that could go wrong did, and it took everything we had to survive it…literally. It was the third year of my son’s leukemia treatment, the total duration of which lasted over 3 years.  Additionally, I started out the year with mono and thyroid failure, which I attribute to the enormous stress of parenting... Read more

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Aug 22

August 22, 2016

"I Have No One" Responding to the Cries of the Sick

“I Have No One” Responding to the Cries of the Sick

I sat with legs crisscrossed applesauce, eating a bowl of honeycombs with a shameful ferocity before preschool pick-up would end these heavenly moments of silence. Skimming the cable guide’s offerings, I settled on the noonday news. Instantly, an invisible hand was reaching from the television, thrusting open my chest and extracting my heart with skillful precision. Instead of a red... Read more

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Aug 9

August 9, 2016

5 Things the Chronically Ill Want “Healthy People” to Know

5 Things the Chronically Ill Want “Healthy People” to Know

Sometimes, the gap between us can feel insurmountable. Maybe we’ve become so immersed in our world of sickness and symptoms we can’t remember what it’s like to be healthy. We stare at you with curiosity and wonder like you’re an unknown species. Maybe you feel the same. You want to understand the chronically ill in your world, but they feel... Read more

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