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May 19

May 19, 2016

3 Tips For Surviving a Flare

3 Tips for Surviving a Flare

Flare-ups are a regular and unfortunate part of living with an autoimmune disease. They LOVE to come right when we are busiest, invading our days with pain and dizziness where there was no room for such miseries. I’m experiencing one currently, as often happens when I am due for my next chemotherapy infusion (Remicade every four weeks, totally worth it!).... Read more

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May 15

May 15, 2016

A Letter To Those Who "Fix"

A Letter To All Who “Fix”

Dear “Fixers,”   Please.Stop.Fixing.Us. We, the “fixees” beg you. Like salesmen, you come from the woodwork, eager to save us, the chronically ill, from ourselves. Like salesmen, your intentions are (mostly) good. The outcome is another story. Way back in the day, before we had a good grip on things like mental illness, my grandmother would get flustered and say,... Read more

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May 9

May 9, 2016

How Sickness Changes Everything

How Sickness Changes Everything

I’m not sure where the memory crawled out from, where it’s been hiding all of this time or why it resurfaced at all. It was the afternoon of my brother’s death. His body gone for hours now, ladies from the church busied themselves with cleaning, and my siblings sat at the kitchen table eating a meal someone had brought. Fried... Read more

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May 2

May 2, 2016

How to Navigate Sickness in Marriage

Till Sickness Do Us Part?

On a balmy June evening, with the sand beneath us, the waves behind us and the sun bathing us in its golden light, my husband and I committed our lives to one another. “For richer or for poorer, in sickness or in health, as long as we both shall live” we giddily declared our love for one another. Which wasn’t... Read more

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Apr 25

April 25, 2016

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Defeating the Monster of Depression

In light of recent celebrity news, many people have weighed-in on depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues. Jamie at The Very Worst Missionary re-posted her “Jesus or Zoloft” blog. Brant (former Air 1 DJ) re-posted “Is Jesus Enough?” Ann Voskamp – who’s book 1,000 Gifts encourages readers to count their blessings – shared her struggle. And they aren’t the only ones. Seems like everyone is... Read more

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Apr 17

April 17, 2016

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Chronic Illness and The Sales Pitch

I have a couple of medical issues. For this reason, I’ve joined several online groups where people experiencing a medical crisis of one kind or another gather and offer support, ideas and encouragement. We talk about our symptoms, struggles, triumphs, good and bad days, doctor visits and sometimes we even grieve the loss of one of our members. But there’s... Read more

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Apr 11

April 11, 2016

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Meeting Others In Their Pain

Today, the five of us sat at the table, eating lunch and talking about death. Sometimes laughing and at other times in tenuous, heavy tones— we talked about what we’d want our funerals to look like and how we felt about the ones we’d been to. I’m not sure how the conversation led us to this place, but I’m also... Read more

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Mar 27

March 27, 2016

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March Madness, Chronic Illness and Unpredictability

March madness isn’t a thing I would know about if it wasn’t for my oldest, Hayden. But brackets are the air he breathes all month long. It’s important to him that I fill out brackets for him to track and talk smack about. Out of my great love for him, I oblige. Knowing nothing about the teams, I pick based... Read more

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Mar 10

March 10, 2016

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God Saw This Day

For most of us, life exists in the before and after. Before the call and after, before the doctor ushered us from the room and gave us the news and after before the ultrasound silenced the room with it’s stillness and after, before the text from the other woman came across his phone and after, before the crash of metal and... Read more

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Mar 3

March 3, 2016

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That Time I Blurted Out My Secret

My mouth tends to get me in trouble. Perhaps it’s a snarky comment that escapes before my brain engages, or it’s my warped sense of humor that maybe only one or two people on the planet understand. But there was a day that my mouth said something that shocked even me, in that short brief moment, a revelation was sparked.... Read more

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