Viewing: Chronic illness and relationships

Sep 8

September 8, 2016

How to Maintain Deep Friendships in the Midst of Chronic Illness

How to Maintain Deep Friendships in the Midst of Chronic Illness

We’ve all seen and/or experienced it. Chronic illness seems to rob us of some of our most treasured friendships. Maybe we simply lack the time to nurture those relationships or that particular friend loses interest in what’s quickly become a complicated and taxing relationship. How do we maintain lasting, meaningful friendships in the midst of chronic illness? Today, my dear... Read more

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Aug 9

August 9, 2016

5 Things the Chronically Ill Want “Healthy People” to Know

5 Things the Chronically Ill Want “Healthy People” to Know

Sometimes, the gap between us can feel insurmountable. Maybe we’ve become so immersed in our world of sickness and symptoms we can’t remember what it’s like to be healthy. We stare at you with curiosity and wonder like you’re an unknown species. Maybe you feel the same. You want to understand the chronically ill in your world, but they feel... Read more

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Jul 25

July 25, 2016

Significance and Relationship, Knowing You Matter

Significance and Relationship, Knowing You Matter

As a young girl, I engaged in every variety of romantic future telling. If you could write the name of a cute boy, a house, a number of children and then fold a paper until it successfully predicted your future, I had done it at least a thousand times. In fact, I’d probably set up a profitable business in my... Read more

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Jul 7

July 7, 2016

3 Keys For Finding Online Support

3 Keys For Finding Online Support

You own yoga pants in seventeen various colors and styles. You save makeup for special occasions and doctor appointments. Occasionally, you remember to put on a bra. You respond to invitations to hang out by asking, “Sure, do you want to come over here? ” But, other than doctors, nurses and pharmacists you haven’t actually seen another person in more... Read more

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Jun 9

June 9, 2016

That Faithful Friend

Befriending those with rare and chronic illnesses is not for the faint of heart. Your job description—should you choose to accept it—will include: walking with us through the plentiful highs and lows, learning a new language (the language of our illness), grieving alongside us, possibly purchasing a medical dictionary, no longer pretending it’s all okay, and last (but not least)... Read more

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May 30

May 30, 2016

Sickness Sucks. You Do Not.

Sickness Sucks. You Do Not.

This is who I am now. Maybe like me, you’ve mostly come to grips with who you are now. You know there’s no use in spending your days lamenting over whom it is you once were and those days of intense grief and mourning have passed. Grief being the sneaky little cuss it is still sneaks up on you at unexpected... Read more

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May 23

May 23, 2016

Why I Sometimes Hide From Super Cute Moms

Why I Sometimes Hide From Super Cute Moms

I see you super cute mom. I do. I see you rocking those new highlights and those trendy clothes. I see you volunteering at the school party and preparing to sweat it up at the gym. I see you heading out for coffee with friends and making your Pinterest-perfect crafts. I see you enjoying your “girl’s day” at the nail... Read more

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May 19

May 19, 2016

3 Tips For Surviving a Flare

3 Tips for Surviving a Flare

Flare-ups are a regular and unfortunate part of living with an autoimmune disease. They LOVE to come right when we are busiest, invading our days with pain and dizziness where there was no room for such miseries. I’m experiencing one currently, as often happens when I am due for my next chemotherapy infusion (Remicade every four weeks, totally worth it!).... Read more

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May 15

May 15, 2016

A Letter To All Who “Fix”

Dear “Fixers,”   Please.Stop.Fixing.Us. We, the “fixees” beg you. Like salesmen, you come from the woodwork, eager to save us, the chronically ill, from ourselves. Like salesmen, your intentions are (mostly) good. The outcome is another story. Way back in the day, before we had a good grip on things like mental illness, my grandmother would get flustered and say,... Read more

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May 9

May 9, 2016

How Sickness Changes Everything

How Sickness Changes Everything

I’m not sure where the memory crawled out from, where it’s been hiding all of this time or why it resurfaced at all. It was the afternoon of my brother’s death. His body gone for hours now, ladies from the church busied themselves with cleaning, and my siblings sat at the kitchen table eating a meal someone had brought. Fried... Read more

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