Bringing an End to Breaking the Broken

December 30, 2015 | Posted in: Love

As I survey the landscape of my life over the last ten years, I can’t help but marvel. I have been the youth pastor’s wife, fallen from grace, turned newly divorced single mom. I’ve come to your churches as that newly single woman, as the teacher who struggled to support herself, to put food on the table or buy Christmas presents. I’ve been your Olive Garden server at night while I taught your students by day. I’ve been the step-mom part of the newly blended family and, last but not least, the woman battling for health. And I couldn’t help but notice how you’ve looked at me as I’ve played each of these various roles, how you’ve treated me as I journeyed with the least of these in different forms and fashions.

A woman in an online immune deficiency group to which I belong shared this week that she is battling multiple illnesses. (This is common with immunodeficiency as it makes you more prone to autoimmune disorders) She’d been too ill to even bathe herself. As a result, her doctor ordered a home health nurse to come and help her with bathing and other activities of daily living. Upon opening the door to greet the nurse for the first time, the nurse scoffed, “Well, you sure don’t look sick.” While bathing the woman, she harshly instructed her that she should be, “Praying that God would heal her.” After the nurse left, the woman called the nursing agency and asked that the “Christian” nurse never return.

Friends, this must stop. If I sound angry, it’s because I am. I’m sick to my stomach over how we treat the least of these in Christ’ name. How quickly we forget that he leveled the playing field. How quickly we forget that he said it was “but for the grace of God that we don’t all perish” and that we are all sinners in need of a Savior. 331898_289786374392158_626863604_o

Friends, this thing where we decide that our neat cleaned up lives make us somehow superior must come to an end.

There is no Jesus in it whatsoever.

We must end this. Right. Now.

Enough with the “there are those people with a lot of problems and then there is me.”

Wrong answer. There is mankind. All of which God’s heart so ached for, he sent his one and only son to redeem. His motivation was love.

Are we motivated by love? Or does fixing people motivate us? Can I tell you that these are two totally different things? Love heals every brokenness. Fixing people communicates judgment. Click To Tweet What posture are you approaching the broken with?

Week after week, I pour my heart out and it all comes down to the same few sentences, over and over again.

Please stop breaking the broken. Please stop looking at them with disdain. Please stop thinking you are better. Please stop fixing and please start loving, because love heals regardless of the brokenness.

 

21486_10153676503990266_5334703026978672578_nCan anyone hear me?

Does anyone hear me?

Do you hear me?

Whether it’s the sick, the newly divorced, the single moms, the blended families, the homeless, the prostitute—can we please stop meeting them with this detached superiority that says, “I am better than you because I’ve stewarded my money, gifts, and choices in wiser ways than you.” Instead, can we please let our hearts be broken for them? Please?

In the church, as well as the medical field, I have received the best and worst care, the most love, and the most judgment. This ought not be. 

Please. Can we ask the Lord to give us his heart, his eyes, his love for the broken?

Can we be done fixing? Can we start loving?

Yes, love may be tough. Yes, love must include healthy boundaries. But we must assume a different posture entirely.

Jesus, give us your eyes! Give us your heart! Rid us of this judgment and this superiority, we don’t want to live another day like this. We know that you don’t give your love in pieces, only to those you deem worthy. We don’t want to, either. Jesus, help us to love like you. In Jesus name, amen.

Would you join me? Would you be a champion for the least of these? Would you spread the word?

Together, we can let God’s love flow through us and heal the broken.

 

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11 Comments

  1. brianna
    December 31, 2015

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    Stacey,

    This is beautiful. Perfect.

    I am so proud to call you friend. ((Hugs))

  2. Susan Gaddis
    December 31, 2015

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    Well spoken, Stacey. As a pastor wife I’ve found that just because someone becomes a Christian, their attitudes and the way they relate to others doesn’t automatically change. We often have to coach those who serve to do so with grace and love without judgment. Jesus didn’t come to judge, but to save (John 3:17). May we remember to follow His lead. 🙂

  3. Stacey Philpot
    December 31, 2015

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    Amen, Susan!

  4. Stacey Philpot
    December 31, 2015

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    Thank you, Brianna! Much Love!

  5. Andrea Stunz
    January 1, 2016

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    I hear you loud and clear! And I love every. single. word.

    • Stacey Philpot
      January 3, 2016

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      I’m so glad someone can hear me! 🙂

  6. Kelly S
    January 1, 2016

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    Stacey, thank you for this candid challenge. How I wish the world were full of the good people you have encountered instead of a mix of good and bad. May the beauty of love meet you on your journey. And when love doesn’t find you, I know you will be Love.

    • Stacey Philpot
      January 3, 2016

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      May we all be love. Thanks for being such a humble supporter, Kelly!

  7. Sarah
    January 2, 2016

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    Well said Stacy! “Enough with the “there are those people with a lot of problems and then there is me.” This is a stirring post.

  8. Gina B
    January 2, 2016

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    It’s interesting that you say, “Stewarding those gifts better” because I’d say the very attitude shows they are not at all good stewards of God’s grace. That said, we should all be looking inside to see when and where we are also like this-maybe not for the least, but for leaders or the “have’s”. Or some group we don’t even think about. Thank you for sharing this as a reminder of how to treat others as I work on teaching my kids about respect!

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