5 Tips For Drowning Pride

November 21, 2015 | Posted in: Chronic Illness and body image, Chronic Illness and Pain, Chronic illness and relationships, chronic illness; support

There are few times when I feel as cool as I do when I’m in the pool getting shown up by the little old ladies at physical therapy. (And no, I’m not talking about temperature). It usually goes something like this.

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To Little Old Lady #1: You do three reps of twelve.

To Stacey: You do one rep of ten.

And Little Old Lady number one still finishes before me. And she isn’t even out of breath. And then Little Old Lady #1 turns to me with her proud, confident smile and says, “We all have to start somewhere.”

She’s smart, Little Old Lady #1. Because we do all have to start somewhere, even if it means we are starting back at the beginning. Click To Tweet

It’s hard for my pride, the pool. I have to have a little talk with myself each time, to remind myself how good this will be for me in the long run. My pride is constantly trying to take me back to the days of being a beast at the gym. At first, I kept telling my pride that wasn’t helpful at this present moment, maybe we could chat later? But then, I recanted.

In the words of a wise pastor, I sat under for many years, “I am either up or I am getting up.” Click To Tweet Here’s what I have learned about “getting up” over the last few years:

  1. “Up” might look different than it did before and there’s no shame in that. If we’re doing what we were built to do to the best of our ability in this season, shining brightly for all to see, then that’s all that counts.
  2. “Getting Up” can’t be rushed. Whether you are healing from a divorce, a car accident or the loss of a child, healing will take considerable time and effort. There is no shame in this. You aren’t doing anything wrong. Indeed, all of our healing paths must start somewhere. The important thing is that they begin.
  3. “Up” may look different for you than it does for others. Don’t compare apples and oranges and then harangue yourself for being an apple and not an orange. Just get up. Just run your race. Do the things that only you can do. The world is counting on you to be you.
  4. “Getting Up” might not be pretty or graceful. You might look a hot mess while you do it. You might even cry. You might want to quit. You may stumble. You might feel like it’s not worth it. Do it anyway.
  5. “Getting Up” may require help from others. The physical therapist has to take my hand to help me from the pool. It’s not good for my pride, but it’s good for my healing journey. Take the hand outstretched to you. Accept help.

So now, I let my pride remind me of those beast days at the gym and I use it as a reminder that these small steps I take today are all a part of getting up, whatever that might look like.

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  1. Brooke
    November 22, 2015

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    I have a bracelet that reads ” run the mile you are in” hard to accept sometimes, but we can only work with what we’ve got

  2. Cate Russell-Cole, the King David Project
    November 24, 2015

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    I love that: you’re either up, or you’re getting up. I want that one on my wall!

  3. Stacey Philpot
    November 24, 2015

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    Cate, such wisdom came from that pastor and in recent years those words have reminded me that while life might knock me down, staying down is not an option.

  4. Stacey Philpot
    November 24, 2015

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    Brooke, even if the mile feels like ten? 😉

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